I believe somewhere in the Bible it says that the enemy likes to steal, kill and destroy (SKAD). I dare say that porn does the same and here is my take on why.
By the way, this is a rough chop. What does that mean? Essentially, it is off the cuff. I may edit it later, I may not. At least, there is a level of some effort here.
How much time have you wasted staring at a screen? I think of the hours lost and smack my head. What could I have accomplished with those hundreds of hours lost? How many moments with my wife and kids were lost due to porn?
You lose a part of yourself in porn. You forget that you are human. You allow yourself to hang out with your animalistic side. That, and you treat women like objects there merely to satisfy some raw, and mandatory need. You forget that we were built for love of ourselves and others.
Here is the big miss though: you forget that God is love. You get trapped in these seconds of pleasure when an eternity of true love and joy are waiting.
Bare with me here. While you spend hours looking for the latest "girl next door," your brain begins rewiring itself. Something happens to the old you and you find yourself becoming numb a bit. You no longer care about sports, or what your friends are doing (do you even have friends anymore?) and you kind of start drifting.
While the rewiring is going on, you start creating a need that never finds satisfaction. You want more. You need more.
It isn't hurting anybody so how could it be wrong?
It's just a guy thing.
My wife isn't taking care of me so I have to.
You start having these conversations just long enough to start looking. Then the fog settles in and you get to doing what you planned to do anyway.
At some random point, things escalate. We have heard horror stories of married men meeting prostitutes multiple times, college guys hooking up with ten different women on the weekend, and older men switching from straight porn to same sex. It escalates and the lines you said you never would cross get pushed into another zip code or erased all together.
God’s way, truth, and light are hidden and lost. Porn shows you another path filled with false hope and failed promises. Yes, you will have a second of pleasure. No, it will never last or replace what a real relationship will.
Porn buries what was known to be bad and creates something that constantly gets worse than the orginal "bad" standard you used to have. You didn’t use to look at that and now you do, tomorrow you will escalate it. The desire to push the boundries never really goes away.
While that truth is dying, a new truth about your identity begins to grow.
You are not a "good person," you are bad, you are just doing what everybody else is doing, etc. You honestly believe that God will majically stop you while you are looking.
Don't get this part wrong though. You always have a way out. The phone rings, the doorbell, the electricity goes out or the internet stops working. There will be a way out if you let it be. You not wanting to see it is not God avoiding giving you one.
You might as well sum it all up with: porn destroys every single relationship you have or ever will.
You fight with your wife (girlfriend) over stupid and random things that really don't matter in the long run. You fight over things that actually do matter in the long run. You fight just because you feel so bad about yourself and what you are doing.
You yell at the kids for being kids. You scream because they are not listening (they are kids), because you know in your heart that you are not listening to God.
What about the relationship you have with yourself? Where is all your self worth? Do you rember the feeling like you were a rock star before you started looking at porn?
The biggest loss is the time and growth you have with God. You miss the blessings while you are wallowing in the shame and guilt.
The cool thing is God absolutely will help you. He always gives you a way out: phone rings, internet crashes, knock on the door, kids wake up early, etc. but the responsibility is yours to stop. You have faith that God exists. You have to have faith that you will break the addiction. The battle was already won by the way.
The enemy lives only to steal, kill and destroy. Guess what? So does porn.